Tell me you’ve had those days too… when it’s been a mad house, a sea of mess and pen stained couches and teenie weenie toddlers taking a fresh diaper go the wall to make chocolate paintings of the smelly kind. Days of dirty laundry piles colliding with not so fresh 4 week old “clean laundry” and fishing toxic waste level code orange sippy cups out of the back of a closet. O motherhood, just when I think it can’t get harder than this, it does! But with hardships come the things to be grateful for.
I. Have. Been. there… have you?
You see I have felt tired and overwhelmed as a mom, but recently I’ve been on the side of making things simpler. The kids & I spend less time in damage control and more time working together. Today I realized just how easy it is to forget the progress we’ve made, the changes accomplished and the collaboration that comes to us so easily. Reading this article; Why Tired Mothers Stay Up So Late, made me thankful, just so thankful.
Over the last 18 months I have been taught by the best and in a way raised up to do better. And in the moment, as I read of this tired overwhelmed mom a different picture was painted of my situation.
Finding Gratitude In A Mountain of Hurt
Early 2015 I moved on my own with my 3 kids. It was the first time I didn’t have any people to rely on. Not my parents. And definitely not my formerly unemployed ex-husband. My plate was full. Every challenge seemed like a mountain of hurt and I was tired and emotional. Let me tell you, divorce sucks, even when you are the one calling it quits. And there’s always another angle that was a benefit; like having the built in help during the day. And so, early 2015 I graduated to regular real raw mom territory… the long hours, the household entirely on your plate and the work projects & deadlines — in addition to divorce related challenges.
I am just so thankful that before the end of that year I found help & training. I’m thankful for the mentors I got to learn from and for the houses I’ve lived in since. With their white floors and dusty yards and many rooms and difficult landlords…
(we’re in the 5th house since I moved out in February of 2015 LOL)
Yes!! I am thankful
for the white floors in my house, because it motivates me to help everyone know how to keep it white before bedtime rolls around.
for the crazy hours my husband works, because I have a reason to organize and plan my meals.
for the pay cut I took after working less hours, because it’s made me develop better budgeting skills.
for the times my kids make messes, because they give me a chance to train my delegation skills — which I previously had none.
for the lack of a washer & dryer, because it’s made me devise a system to have less clothes and less laundry weekly
These are just a few of the things I have to reflect on. When I look at it, our worse days are really small scuffles. A loud kid. A highly adventurous moment nearly getting hurt and breaking something. Laundry picked up just one day late… ONE.
My household team is amazing and I need to thank them more often.
Just because I have an excel sheet in my head and a very specific process manual that’s not perfectly in effect…
Oh yeah, it’s NOT and it may never be
Doesn’t mean I get to forget where we were and how far we’ve come.
My family team works with me
and I am SO thankful for them I was drowning, my kids were angry, disrespectful and whiny. And their mess was ALL over the house. They complained every day that I was “too busy” to play with them. They had to be waited on and meals were a constant struggle… eat this, don’t throw your food… And no one did any chores. I would have never called us a team. That’s all changed, I can honestly say I love school mornings, because I wake up to SPEND time seeing them off, not fight them and rush them out. They know to get ready, prepare school lunches and help each other with breakfast — I literally don’t do anything but oversee them and check any moods that need adjusting and offer a hug or encouragement.
My kids are still learning, but looking back… what a difference!
IS this something you deeply desire in your life? Would you like to take your family from crazy wild and stressful to united team, growing together? Do you want to feel like motherhood is developing smart, diligent and passionate people instead of wrangling wild animals?
If yes, the best way is to get equipped for household success at the 3 day seminar I attended at the end of 2015. It’s the best investment you could ever make for you and your family.