“Being a loser is a choice. In fact, it’s a lifetime of wrong choices fueled by a distorted self-image.”
– CJ Ortiz, MetalMotivation.com
A distorted self-image is like broken glasses, you can’t see $#!@ and you’re getting a headache fast. To top it all off, now you can’t anticipate the distance of things in your way, so you easily trip, stumble and even fall.
Don’t think I never look at myself through broken glasses. I do, I have my days too! So I get that you might too. Just don’t stay there, okay?
Give yourself that needed tough love, steer yourself by being your own coach, that will help you not lose at life. But make damn sure you NEVER reduce yourself to a worthless person– you are precious.
Whining and feeling broken + worthless is the first sign you’re about to lose…
#1 You Always Complain and Believe You Have No Value
I’m going to elaborate on this. See, many people still don’t even know what a broken self-image is. They live through this camera lens crafted by someone else. And that IS the definition of a broken self-image.
The Media, Television, Their Own Mistakes… and everyone else but God tells them who they are.
By the time they are 21, they believe that the things they love are just wishful thinking, they are just things they sort of like but will never get to do. They are looking at their talents through the eyes of nay-sayers.
The result is a life full of regret, shame and wistfulness. Ask yourself, do i want to linger here for 5 minutes or 30 years? It’s up to you!
Just don’t give it too much time, because giving up on your dreams has a way of seeping into everything else fast. So, don’t diminish your passion to a pile of refuse…
Don’t say: “It’s not for me.. I wish…, but there’s no way I can…”
You can easily see the next sign…
#2 You Live Through the Eyes & Words of Others
People who stand and fall by the acceptance of others will never be able to find their own identity. You can’t flounder about in life looking for the approval of people. They have their own struggles and most of the time they are projecting their drama on your life.
Often times the very things people harshly reject in others are things THEY struggle with themselves. They either wish they had that skill, talent or attitude OR they resent that you still dream and hope.
So it’s very, very important that you listen to the people around you. Do they celebrate success in others faster than they complain and criticize? Do they lift you up when you’ve lost faith?
Those are the people to keep. Don’t make the mistake of turning your friendships into the third sign…
#3 You Hitch Your Cart On What Your Critics, Haters and the Complainers Say
Don’t put your trust in nobles and in human beings who cannot save you.–Psalms 146:3
Having friends is great. Having friends who cheer you on, celebrate you and keep you sharp are better. Just don’t put ALL your eggs in their basket, even if what they are saying sounds good.
Always do your own research, meditating and choosing.
You won’t be losing when you take charge.
And if you need help, find friends who will take you higher.
Why not even a friend in “high places”, you know the big man? It can reinforce you tremendously if you find a way to get a deeper relationship with the powerful force behind all life on earth and beyond.
I like to draw power from the names He calls me…
Beloved, Approved, Daughter, Joyful, Wise, Loving, Happy… just to name a few.
What does God call you?